A universal longing..<33

I havent had that many relationships, but lots of friendships that could last me a lifetime of happiness.
After experiencing 4 years of high school and looking back on it compared to now in college, Ive come to realize something even more...
Life is surrounded and consumed by love and relationships.

I got into a real conversation about this topic with a friend of mine and we talked about the issue of people settling for someone who isnt "right" for the lack of a better word, and how love has been tainted. You know?!

Love is a universal longing and wish. Everyone craves for the fabulous relationship to share with someone and have someone know you inside and out.
So many people are concerned with having someone and wanting someone there for them. Experiencing the feeling of loneliness and they are scared that they wont or cant find someone. The needy and loneliness consume people sometimes causing them to think that they need someone to fill that empty space in their heart however everyone is lonely and want someone special in their life..to have someone there with you on an intimate emotional level. Everyone wants that..of course!

Except, to me, I believe settling for someone who happens to be there in your life and who isnt right for you is not the best way to go about it. I know alot of people go down the wrong road because of love and relationships. And for what? Lives have been taken, destroyed, changed forever, and tainted by love. Dealing with loneliness or problems doesnt mean go get drunk, get high, get faded, or have one night stands... The feeling of loneliness can be dealt with in more healthier ways like making friendships, being the family, and keeping yourself busy. The simplicity and advantages of true friendships are taken for granted. Jumping into a relationship brings nothing but drama and more hurt. How many people have been hurt for no reason because of rash decisions. A relationship isnt just a boy and girl getting together but it concerns everyone around you. It affects the people around you and its sharing your life with another person and letting another person into your life on a different level.

I dont believe you have to have someone in your life to be happy or to fill that "empty" space in your heart. When you allow yourself to be happy and let things come your way without force, that right person for you at that time in your life will come your way. Be patient. Trust me! Settling wont do any good. I believe things happen for a reason. Continue to do what you have to do like school, spending time with family and friends, and living/enjoying life and the relationship will eventually present itself. Life can be surprising..Hahaa.
Maybe if it hasnt happened for you yet then its probably not supposed to happen quite yet. It doesnt mean that it never will or that theres something wrong or that the last relationship was the best you could do. NO! Thats not the right mentality. I believe we're all meant to have someone. Does it really matter when we find that person? Theres nothing wrong with being single...Come on now. The ones that are really concerned with "love" and "relationships" are in high school and college students. What? We're only 16-19 years old and thats the main concern?! Really? Being single can be very enpowering! I know that since Ive been single I have gained a different kind of confidence, understanding of myself and others, options are kept open and are revealed, and an independence.

LOVE>The one thing in everyones lives that everyone wants and prays for yet it causes heartache and pain. But I think thats what comes with something so great as love, heartache. Part of being in love and having a real relationship is getting hurt. Love has been turned into something its not, well at least being represented in a way that taints the real meaning..
Im no expert dont get me wrong, Im only 19 but dont let my age underestimate my understanding of my feelings and those of others. All Im saying is that Love is universal and shouldnt be taken for granted or taken advantage of.